when leaves fall, new shoots sprout

Someone remarked that i used to approach him/her when i had problems, since he/she has not heard from me for some time, it means i don’t have problems lately. This remark struck me, though not surprisingly. My mind has to decide how to interpret and there are multifold implications. Either there are something wrong with how we sustain our friendship – that communication is one-way and only upon when i am troubled, or there is a hint that our friendship has grown apart. 

I used to hang on to branches and trunks, hoping leaves would not fall. The wind blows nevertheless. Am I holding on to branches and trunks still, or am i lamenting for the fallen leaves?

There is a common message in the Mahamudra or Dzogchen teachings that I just attended, and the various spiritual traditions mentioned in KW’s book. That the highest of all, to reach liberation, all forms have to break down, concepts and ideas have to be discarded. For the nature of our true self has no duality.

I told HM in recent session that I have stopped trying to mold relationships into particular forms. Maybe I’ve grown wiser, maybe I am just too tired. Forms- ideas and expectations of how i think things should be – are artificial and only fools try to beg, bribe, force Nature to conform.

The wind blows, leaves fall and sometimes branches break too.
At times, there is a need to hold on to the trunk;
At times, enjoy sitting in the breeze and watch how new growth begins.